I’m an Only Child, But I’m Getting a Sibling. Here’s What I Need to Know

Big brother and little brother sitting on a sidewalk.

I wrote a short story about my life. Do you want to hear it?

I’m an only child, and that’s pretty amazing, but now my family says I’m getting a sibling. What even is that? – The End

Actually, I’ve had a little bit of time to think about this whole idea of new sibling, but I have to admit: it still doesn’t make a lot of sense. Don’t worry, though. You’ve got time to get me used to the idea.

I’ve been thinking of some things that will really help me, though, and I’m going to share them with you. Because I’m nice.

 

1) Having a New Baby in the Family Is Exciting

Big brother and little brother sitting on a sidewalk.When it comes to the new baby, if you warn me, I’m going to flip out. But if you share the exciting news, I’m going to catch on.

The people who take care of me are everything to me, and I follow where they lead. That includes how I learn to see things.

Let me know that having Baby around is something to celebrate, so when it happens I’ll be ready to celebrate, too. It’s kind of like getting into the pool: I’ll want to just dip my toes in at first, but once I see you laughing and splashing around, there’s no way I’ll want to miss out on the fun!

If you have a name ready early on, say it to me . . .  a lot! Saying baby’s name is a great way to introduce me to my new sibling and get familiar with a name that will be so, so important in my life.

 

2) I Want to Help You Prepare

One of my greatest desires is to be included in all the things you do.

When you’re buying Baby new decorations, toys, and diapers, take me with you and ask me what I think. If you give me options between pacifiers and shampoos, I can help you choose the best one for sure! Then, when it comes time to visit the hospital, I want to help you pack the bag with everything that we need.

I’ll feel like a very important part of making sure “our baby” is ready to take on the world.

 

3) Sometimes, I Don’t Want to Talk About It

Before and after Baby comes, I’m going to feel confused about what it all means. It’s a lot to process in my little brain, you know.

A lot of the time, I don’t want to talk about the new baby. I want to experience the world I’ve known so far. Big changes are easier to swallow in small doses.

Sometimes I don’t want to talk or kiss mommy’s belly or say Baby’s name. Please don’t make me.

 

4) I Can’t Imagine What Life Will Be Like With a Sibling

I know, I know. You keep telling me that there’s this thing called a baby coming in 2018…

…it just doesn’t make sense to me. First of all, why do you keep talking about those numbers so much? But also, I just can’t grasp what you mean.

Still, you can prepare me a little bit. Let me know that the baby won’t be able to play with me at first. That will not be a pleasant surprise if I’m not ready for it.

Neither will all that crying and stuff. I’m going to have to hear it over and over: Baby will spend most of the time crying, sleeping, and eating—for a little while.

 

5) I Want to Be Back in My Baby Shoes

Showing me my baby pictures and pictures of when mommy was pregnant with me can help me understand that I was a little baby once, too.

I’m just as special as the new baby. In fact, back in my day, they threw parties just as grand and colorful as the ones they’re throwing for Baby now. I wouldn’t mind getting a few presents, too, though, since we’re already celebrating…

 

6) I’m Definitely Going to Feel Jealous, and I Hope That’s OK

Some of my friends have told me how this goes sometimes.

They get new babies in the family, and they feel super jealous of them. They don’t want to feel that way: they just do. But their mommies and daddies try to make them stop. They feel like they’ve failed because my friends weren’t completely happy.

I’ll be excited about Baby if you are, but I’m sorry: I know it’s going to happen. I’m going to feel jealous, a lot of the time. I love my mommy, a LOT, and it’s really hard not being able to snuggle with her whenever I want.

I hope that’s OK.

 

7) If I Go Through Big Changes After the New Baby Is Born, It Will Be Hard Not to Make a Connection

I’ve heard you talking about “weaning” and “potty-training” and all this other busy, mysterious stuff.

All I know is, I hope we get it out of the way before Baby comes. If not, I might think that Baby and all those scary new things are a package deal that you need to return RIGHT NOW.

 

8) I Want to Know What Will Happen to Me During the Birth

Tell me what birth is. I may not understand everything, but I’ll try.

Then tell me where I’m going to be when Baby is born. Will I be in the hospital with you? Will I be watching when Baby comes out? Will I stay with Nana, with Grand daddy, with Aunt Sarah, with Uncle Justin? If I don’t know ahead of time, the whole event might feel kind of like the end of the world is happening.

If I’m not there at the birth, please let me be the first visitor. I want to feel my privilege as a big sibling and get first dibs on all the baby snuggles. I hope you’ll tell me how excited you are to see me, too!

 

9) More Than Anything, I Need to Know That You Still Love Me

I know you tell me all the time, but I think that when Baby comes, it’s going to be really easy to forget. Like, really easy.

So you should just tell me all the time, OK?


By: Ryan Drawdy
November 20, 2017


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